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By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz "the marriage doctors"
Authors of the INDIE Book Awards Gold Medal Winner for Best Relationship Book of 2008 Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage Available at GoldenAnniversaries.com, Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, and at Bookstores
Whats love got to do with it? Is love really a second hand emotion? A famous song focused on these notions. So whats the truth about love? Is it real or is it a second hand emotion?
The truth is, love is something very hard to define. Love is often times indescribable. And most certainly, love is NOT a second hand emotion. There is no question about it love is real! Love is something you feel. Love is something you know to be true even if you cant define it or describe it.
Over the years we have talked to thousands of people in love, about love. We have discovered the truths about How you know you are in love, The secrets of successful love, and How to sustain love. And through it all, we know these truths to be self-evident love is real, love is definable, and love is sustainable, often throughout a lifetime.
One of the icons of the entertainment business, Tina Turner, wrote a very popular song entitled, What's Love Got to Do with It? The lyrics of this St. Louis Walk of Fame inductee go like this:
You must understand that the touch of your hand makes my pulse react. That its only that thrill of boy meeting girl.
Opposites attract Its physical only logical you must try to ignore that it means more than that.
Oh, what's love got to do with it? What's love but a second hand emotion. What's love got to do with it? Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken?
It may seem to you that I'm acting confused. When you're close to me if I tend to look dazed I've read it someplace.
I've got cause to be. Theres a name for it. Theres a phrase for it. But whatever the reason you do it for me.
I've been thinking of a new direction. But I have to say, I've been thinking about my own protection. It scares me to feel that way.
What's love got to do with it? What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion? What's love got to do with it? Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken?
Tina had it right in many ways. Love can be scary. Love can be cruel. Love can, for sure, be something that confuses you. It can be, in the end, something that breaks your heart. All this is true, but heres where we part ways with Tinas lyrics even though love stands a chance of turning out badly and breaking your heart, to fall in love and to be in love is a risk in life that is well worth taking, irrespective of the chances of failure.
Frankly, it is natural to be afraid of falling in love. But to fall in love is something that is uniquely human. It is an emotion that often confuses people who think they are in love, but in the end, being in love is a wonderful emotion an emotion that is exhilarating to feel. And only humans can feel it!
Only a human heart can be broken. To truly be in love, however, is to take the chance that your heart might, in the end, be broken. But can you imagine what you lose by not taking the chance to fall in love?
Love is something you feel. Love is something you feel in your heart. And love is totally worth the risk. Love is NOT a second hand emotion; it is the most exhilarating emotion that all human beings will feel in their lifetime. Go for it!
Falling in love is so very human. When you feel it in your heart and in your soul, take the chance take the risk. Sure, your heart can be broken, but can you imagine going through life without loving another human being in the deepest and most intimate way?
Being in love is worth the risk. Love is NOT a second hand emotion!
Love well.
Author Information: Learn how you can find love and have a successful marriage using the advice of over 15,000 years of collective marital wisdom in the marrige doctors award winning book, Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage, available at Amazon.com. Learn more: www.GoldenAnniversaries.com
